We say that we want children to have financial support. They need it, after all, and if an adult makes the decision to bring a child into the world, he/she should be obliged to provide what’s necessary to give it a full, healthy life. When parents divorce, neither of them magically loses that obligation.
But if we do want children to be supported financially, why do we make it so hard on non-custodial parents to do so? Why don’t we, for example, order equal parenting in the great majority of divorce and custody cases? That would mean each parent could simply bear the costs of caring for the child when little Andy or Jenny is with them, plus half of the non-everyday expenses. In short, most child support orders would simply become moot and a huge area of conflict between parents would vanish.